I swear, reverse psychology is working overtime in my life. Its an odd occurrence but we’re all guilty of it at times. If a sign says ‘don’t look here’ and an arrow, chances are, you’re going to look.
My latest experiences with reverse psychology have been completely unintentional though. The following are some day to day examples of the mysterious ‘reverse psychology’ working in all its glory in my life:
*FWBs. 1. I tell guys I’m not interested in a relationship at the moment, I’m just after fun. They agree, then a couple of months in, tell me they’re falling for me.
2. I tell a fwb that I won’t be offended if he meets a nice girl and wants to stop our little arrangement to date her and settle down ‘I would totally understand, its no problem.’ He says that *if* he meets anyone, he likes the idea of polyamory so would be fine to keep our arrangement going *and* date her.
*Polyamory. For guys that I’m currently dating, I say that I’m ok with them being with someone else (sex and/or dating). They tell me I’m enough for them and turn down all sexual (and otherwise) advances from others.
*Cuck. I tell them it makes me a little frisky to hear what they’ve done with other women. They tell me the sex was rubbish and they ‘definitely won’t be hooking back up with her again!’.
*Naughty photos. 1. I tell a fwb that he can show my cheeky photos to his friends if he wants. What do I care, I figure he’d do it anyway. He says no, his friends are idiots and he’d rather not be disrespectful. He sends me photos of his ‘idiot’ friends instead.
2. I tell my ex-cum-bf the same thing; show my pics if he wants, I don’t care. He says something along the lines of ‘I’m not one of those guys. And anyway, they’re all your good friends too now. It could be awkward. Plus there’s my brothers in the mix too..’
I respond with the attitude of ‘Ok don’t worry about it then.’ He now shows them constantly. I get msgs from my guy friends and brother-in-laws saying ‘just saw a slideshow, nice work’, ‘two thumbs up’ or I send a cheeky pic to the bf and he responds with ‘the boys liked that one’.
Side note on that: You might be thinking its a bit odd that they’ve all seen my cheeky pics but there’s legitimately not an ounce of sexual tension in the air.
One of the brothers has seen me naked (I was skinny dipping in his pool with a bunch of his girl friends).
Another has seen one of my tits (he banged on the window one night, I opened the curtain and my towel fell down.. His response was “Nice boob! Now pass me a lighter”).
Add to that the fact that I cuddle up to them on the couch, nap next to them on a bed and one I went on a holiday to Japan with (just the 2 of us and we got matching tats).
As it turns out, guys and girls can be friends without wanting to have sex. Just like girls and girls, and guys and guys.
Why do people disagree with that? I’m living proof. NU and I have seen each other naked but don’t jump on each other. Friends are friends. I help the boys pick outfits for parties, wax the few hairs they get between their eyebrows and give them high 5’s on the sly when they walk out in the morning with a girl carrying high heels and a mop of sex hair. I’d do those things for NU too (especially the girl one! :O hahahaha), and even if she sent me a cheeky lingerie pic, I still wouldn’t want to jump on her. She’s totally friendzoned haha!
For the record, there’s no sexual tension from my end with these lovely boys either. I’m just super affectionate with guys for some reason. They know I’m not interested. If I jump on one of the boys in the morning and he says ‘umm RG, kind of an awkward time – I’ve got a boner’ then I exit the room asap (giggling) hahaha.
Well in true RG fashion, I got a bit off topic there. Well maybe not.. I’m being loving and affectionate but getting friendship only. Reverse psychology? Or is it not completely reverse because I only want friendship too? It’s too late at night to properly work that one out!
I guess my conclusion to all of this is that life is continuously surprising. Just when you think you’ve got it sorted out in your mind, someone goes ahead and does the exact opposite. Sometimes it works out better than you imagined, sometimes worse. But if everything worked out exactly like we wanted/expected it to, life would be boring. Perfect, but boring. I like to think that these twist and turns makes life interesting.