I don’t get it.
There’s nothing wrong with being single. It doesn’t mean *you’re* not good enough for someone else – it’s your life you’re living, not theirs. What it really means is some people have found someone they want to hang around all the time, and either you haven’t yet, or you don’t feel the need to right now. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with that.
We’re strange creatures us humans. Yes, being in love feels nice but being on your own isn’t the end of the world. In fact I’m starting to think the opposite. I love being single. I’m trying to keep single for as long as I can and even when I do end up getting a partner, I still want to feel somewhat single – I want an open/poly relationship. I like the freedom of singleness. I’ve got a taste for it and I refuse to give it up 😛
Relationships are generally like having a little bubble around the two of you. It’s a nice safe little bubble. But you turn from two ‘individuals’ to ‘us’, and this is the part I get stuck on. We shouldn’t lose our individuality and independence that we had while single.
I’ve done it before and in my longest relationship I became so dependant that I once rang my partner in tears because I couldn’t open a salsa jar. My dinner was now ‘ruined’ and I was going to ‘starve to death’. Hahaha it was pathetic.
Being single means I fend for myself, yes sometimes I can’t open jars (I actually have a marmalade jar in my fridge that’s waiting for the next visitor to help me with HAHA) but I’m not completely dependent on someone. And I really enjoy it.
When we’re single we get this lovely opportunity to find ourselves, love ourselves, see the world through our own eyes, make our own decisions and fend for ourselves.
My nan is 82 and she lives on her own. Yes she admits she makes boring dinners because she only needs to feed herself but dammit if she can do it being that age then so can we! I should ask her how she opens her jars..
Oh, and its not new that she’s on her own. She got divorced when my dad was a kid. He’s now 60. She’s had ‘boyfriends’ here and there but she’s realised she doesn’t need a partner to survive. I actually think it’s kept her young at heart – she sent me a photo the other day of her racing bikes with my little cousin!
There’s always ads on TV from eharmony or RSVP and I despise them. Yes it’s a good way to meet people but they subconsciously convince people that having a partner is the best and that therefore being single means you’re a loser. What those ads *don’t* show is couples fighting and single people skipping through a flowery meadow.
So there we go. There’s my ad for singledom.
Do what makes you happy.
Live the life you want to live.
And if that means going against societies’ ideals of being married with kids at 35 with a white picket fence out front, well good. If we didn’t push the boundaries of ‘normal’, we’d all be drones.
Your happiness is number one, it’s not about finding a partner to make your mum happy or finding a partner because your siblings are all married. You’ll find someone IF and when you want.
Sidenote: I’d like to give a big thank you to anyone who’s ever stood up for something and received ridicule for it – it’s helped break the barriers for the rest of us. I’m a pants-wearing, girl-loving (well boys too..), poly-appreciating, non judgemental, kinky, tattoo-loving, anti-marriage, pro-adoption, pro-abortion, pro-prostitution, redhead (albeit not natural), Buddhist, tomboy who right now loves being single and independent. Fuck normal. I do what makes me happy, we all should! We’re living in a good era where pretty much anything goes, and its only going to get better from here!